Friday, September 24, 2010

Places Where People Grope

Ep 73: The Four Agreements - Domestication and the Dream of the Planet

Last week we began a series on the book "The Four Agreements" and in the first half saw the introduction of "The Smoking Mirror", that was the 71 episode if you have not heard. "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz, a Toltec Wisdom Book. This time we will see a summary of the first chapter called "The Domestication and the Dream of the Planet." Here we go.

What you see and hear right now is not just a dream. At this very moment you are dreaming. Dreaming of the brain awake. Before naciƩsemos, those who came before us created a big outside dream that we call the dream of the company or the planetary dream, which is the collective dream of billions made dream of smaller, personal dreams, together, create a family dream, a dream of a community, a dream of a city, a dream of a country, and finally, a dream of all humanity. The dream of the world includes all the rules of society, its beliefs, its laws, its religions, its different cultures and ways of being, their governments, its schools, social events and celebrations .-> with this refers to an interpretation of reality.

human beings who have preceded us (mom, dad, school and religion) teach us to dream the way society does, through repetition, information entered in our minds. -> Showed us their interpretation, "culture."

That's how we learned everything we know. We learned how to behave in society: what to believe and what not to believe, what is acceptable and what is not, what is good and what is bad, what is beautiful and what is ugly, what is right and what is wrong, even the language speak. Language is the code we use human beings to understand and communicate. Every letter, every word of every language, is an agreement.

You did not choose your language or your religion or your moral values: they were there before you were born. Never chose not the least of these agreements. Not even choose our own name.

As children we did not get to choose our beliefs, but we were according to information that we received from other human beings sleep the planet. The only way to store information is by agreement. The outside dream captures our attention, but if we do not agree, do not store this information. As soon as we agree with something, so we believe, and that's what called "faith." To have faith is to believe unconditionally .-> the concept of agreement is the acceptance of what we learned, it is the interpretation of our culture on the existence, world, life, etc.

call this process "the domestication of human beings", and through it we learn to live and dream. Every day, at home, school, church and from the TV, tell us how we should live, what kind of behavior is acceptable, how to be human beings. We have a whole concept of what a "Woman" and what is a "man." And we also learn to judge: We judge ourselves, we judge others, we judge our neighbors ... -> Inherited cultural interpretation teaches us to judge.

We train our children in the same way we train any pet: a system of rewards and punishments. We said, 'You're a good boy, "or," You're a good girl, "when we did what Mom and Dad wanted to do. When we did not, were "a bad girl ' or "a bad boy."

soon began to be afraid of being punished and do not receive the reward, ie the attention of our parents or others as brothers, teachers and friends. Over time we developed the need to attract the attention of others to get our reward. Because of this fear of being punished and not receive the reward, begin to act, to pretend that we were what we were not, solely to please others, to be good enough for others. Pretend to be what we were not because we were afraid to reject us and this fear became the fear of not being good enough.

We ended up being someone we were not. We become a copy of the beliefs of mother, father's beliefs, the beliefs of society and the beliefs of religion .-> to fit into our culture, we adapt to your dream, its interpretation.

Domestication is so powerful that, at some point in our lives, and do not need anyone to domesticate us. We are one autodomesticados animals. We punish ourselves when we do not follow the rules of our system of beliefs reward us when we are "a good boy 'or' a good girl." -> Censor ourselves with what we already know that society expects of us.

Our belief system is like the Book of the Law that governs our mind and directs our sleep. We base all our judgments on it, even when they go against our own inner nature.

interior We used the Judge what is in our Book of the Law to judge everything we do and we do, everything we think and not think, everything we feel and not feel, even the weather, the dog, the cat ... Everything. Every time we do something that goes against the Book of Law, Justice says we are guilty, we need a punishment, we should feel ashamed. This happens many times a day, day after day, for all the years of our lives.

There is another part of us that receives trials, and that part we call "The Victim." The Victim carries the guilt, blame and shame. And all This is based on a belief system that never chose to believe, but it is so strong that, even years after coming into contact with new concepts and trying to make our own choices, we realize that these beliefs still control our lives.

Since everything in the Book of Law has to be true, anything that puts into question what we believe, makes us feel unsafe, although the Book Law is wrong. For this reason, we need great courage to challenge our own beliefs, because, although we know that not chose, it is also true that we accept. The agreement is so strong that even when we know that the concept is wrong, we feel the guilt, blame and shame that arise when we act against those rules.

All these laws exist in our mind, we believe in them, the court decrees and the victim suffers the guilt and punishment. But who says that this dream is fair? True justice is paying only once for each error. What is truly is unfair to pay several times by the same error.

Man is the only animal on Earth that pays thousands of times by the same error, because we have a great memory. Make a mistake, we judge ourselves, we plead guilty and punish us. Every time I remember, we judge ourselves again, we again found guilty and punished, we turn to again and again. If you are married, also our wife or our husband reminds us of the error, and so we return again to judge us, punish us again and we turn to feel guilty. Is it fair?

How many times do we make our spouse, our children or our parents pay for the same error? Every time we remember the mistake, blame them again and send them all the emotional poison we feel against the injustice that we pay for it again.

In the dream of the planet, humans find it normal to suffer, live in fear and create emotional dramas. The outside dream is not a pleasant dream, a dream full of violence, fear, war and injustice. The personal dream of humans varies, but overall it's a nightmare. If we look at human society, we see that it is a place that is very hard to live, because it is ruled by fear, suffering, anger, revenge, addiction, street violence and a tremendous injustice. It exists at different levels in different countries, but the fear of external controls sleep.

Every human being, male or female, has a personal dream that, as with the dream of society, is often led by fear. The same fear is expressed differently in each person, of course, because we all feel anger, jealousy, hatred, envy and other negative emotions. Our personal dream can also become a permanent nightmare where we suffer and live in a state of constant fear. However, it is not necessary that our dream is a nightmare. We can enjoy a pleasant dream.

Let's get this part down here, because there are several ideas that let the book and I think it's good to take some time to reflect. I invite you to see in your life, what is the dream of the planet where you live, ie what is the collective interpretation of reality in which you get on, and how it affects your daily living, in what you do and stop doing what you think and what you do not think, how you judge others, to the circumstances that you yourself are living longer.

What arrangements have you taken in your life? Arrangements can be your family, your community, your country, etc. Begins to remember, to feel, with which of them are not so agree, feel it in your body. A simple example: I grew up with the understanding that the cats were treacherous. Great now I became aware of this agreement, bothering me, I now sympathize enough cats.

Look how many times you pay for your mistakes and how often you pay others for their mistakes.

Be aware at all times, which is the emotion that is ruling your "dream", or your interpretation of your now, your interpretation of the moment. What emotion or emotions rule you more often? Fear, anger, frustration, envy, jealousy? Or love, generosity, joy, compassion, gratitude? As the book says: "... it is necessary that our dream a nightmare. We enjoy a dream nice. "ie, it is not necessary that our interpretation of life, now, is negative, we live in a pleasant and joyful interpretation of life, depends on each one of us.

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Now I say goodbye, take care much, embrace and bon voyage!

Monday, September 13, 2010

Problems With Wowogolf

Ep 72: How to Discover What Are Your Dreams

Let the subject today. Walking here on the central theme is the life of your dreams, and from time to time, I run into a situation that does not surprise me much, because until recently happened to me a lot, but that worries me, and that see that many people do not know what their dreams. Many people do not know what you would most like to do in life, or dare not express it, or does not believe has the right even to have that aspiration.
And I worried for several reasons. One is because if you do not know what to do if you do not know what you like, if you do not know what are their dreams, which they think are likely to achieve it? Almost 0. Another reason is because many people have come to believe that no right or make no sense, or that "can not" even before you start to dream! Or perhaps when children had dreams and for some reason had to suppress and had already forgotten that. That seems to me very sad.
Finally tb worries me because the more people are living and realizing their dreams, the happier everyone individually, so our environment is happier and happier we all are. It's a virtuous circle.
As I said before, I think it is a duty for all exploit our talents and realize our dreams and help others to exploit their talents and realize their dreams. Here we review a very easy to discover what our dreams, what we love and therefore where we should focus our energies.
Well, I do not know if you lie to Steve Pavlina, he is one of the most sounding names in the world of personal development and is the author of "Personal Development for Smart People", which even I have not read so I can not comment yet. His wife Erin is written on the blog "Spiritual Wisdom for Conscious People" in www.erinpavlina.com and his last post is very related to today's topic is called "How to find and ignite your passion "," How to find and turn your passion. " On the Road Blog I'll put a link to this article on Erin's blog for those who want to read it, really recommend it because we will discuss here only an excerpt.
Well, take a sheet of paper or open a document in Word to take notes and follow the instructions. There are 4 questions you are going to give much light on your dreams and passions, here is the method proposed Erin:

1) What makes you go crazy with excitement?
Think about all the things in life that you love do. Skiing, reading, hiking, socializing, partying, make videos and upload them to YouTube, playing poker, or meditate quietly for hours. Make a list of all those things you love to do if someone told you that you will take the day off work to do as you wish. "Patricia, why not missing work tomorrow and you dedicate yourself to _______?". Complete the sentence with a list of things you'd like to do instead of going to work.
not matter if it seems irrelevant or a waste of time. A friend goes crazy with video games. He is a player, nothing more. There is nothing more than the rather do. He went to college and studied computer thinking it was a good career choice for him, but really did not like. now works as a tester and play games all day. Increased very fast and is very popular because it gives great constructive feedback to improve the games. If it continues could create your own game in a more or integrate the design team.
Once you have the list of things that excite you, consider how you could make the transition to a career that allows you to do it all the time. Think hard and be creative. You do not have to give your work today, but start thinking about what ways there are others who are making money doing that that you love, and see if you can find a way to insertarte in those areas.

2) What breaks your heart?
When you look around, you see suffering? You see things that are wrong and you'd love to see it solved? What breaks your heart? Malnutrition or child abuse? People who are homeless? Policy? The war and global conflicts? What breaks your heart is a hint to find your passion. If you believe that you actually have the possibility to make a difference in the world, what you would focus? What problem would attack? Nobody says you have to end hunger in the world overnight. Just look into your heart and see what pain you kept there.
Make a list of everything that really breaks your heart, things that really touch your heart and emotions that provoke strong reactions. Once you have the list, see if you can take action on those things. Not necessarily be something you can change your current job for now, may be something you start to be done in parallel, and that helps you gain experience, and who knows, later a job offer.

3) What would you do if you knew you could not fail?
most common thing people say they know what are their dreams, but he is not doing anything to achieve them is: "I do not know how." No one knows how to do when you are just beginning. Not knowing how to do something is not a good enough reason not to. You can learn. Or find someone who is doing successful and learn how they did it, or just go your own way of trial and error until you find a way.
In your paper, write the sentence: "If I knew that I will not fail me ... ... ... ...." And then make a list of everything you do. Think big. The sky is the limit.
Now think of all the ways you could accomplish what's on your list, there is only one way to get things done. For example, if your list was "to help and teach people to eat a healthy and environmentally aware ", how could you do this? You could create a blog or podcast, to organize workshops in your community, closer to schools, writing a book, etc.. While you stay in tune with your dreams, how to do that is your decision. You could do with your list? Make a list of all careers, jobs or activities that could carry out what is on your list of things you would do if you knew you could not fail.

4) What makes you feel what you've contributed?
Another way to find out what your passion is to complete the following sentence: "At the end of the day, I feel good about myself when he_______." Feeling good about yourself when you've solved a problem, helped a sufferer, made a change in your life, or another person, when you have challenged yourself, when you have organized an area, cooked a meal for your family, when you've given yourself time to meditate? That makes you feel the satisfaction and feeling of a job well done? You could do that for a living? It is very probable that it can, or at least do something related.
Your passion, your dreams are on you, somewhere inside you. Remember them or find them. Then take action. You can do it! When you combine passion with talent and contribution, success was not long in coming. Do not go doing something you hate, start looking at yourself and discover what makes you happy. It's your right and your duty!

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Now I say goodbye, take care much, remember your dreams, a hug and a nice trip!