For people just up the road, tell them that before we have begun a series Submission of 3 called "Designing Your Identity." Here in the path are always talking about design your life, to design the life of your dreams but to achieve that is important to build for yourself, for yourself and then did this series "Designing your identity."
In this third and final theme is: Your Improvement Plan
In the first part of this series we said that who you are today is the product of those who choose to be, who think you can be, who insist be day after day, of whom want to be in the end, because it is in your hands. But sometimes we said we are not 100% aware of this and so the idea of \u200b\u200bthe first episode was to provoke a reflection in which you realized you really so, it identified those characteristics of your personality or you repeat your behavior if you do not like or do not bring the results you expect, in short, the idea was to bring the level of consciousness the way you are, your habits, behaviors, characteristics.
In the second part, the idea was to detect which were your opportunities for improvement, more critical look your personality, your features and understand if you served or not, if you liked it or not, you need to modify or simply delete any of these characteristics. This stage may present some challenges. If you are very self-demanding, or if you have low self-esteem, you can fall at the end to find that everything about you is wrong, nothing at you like, and you'd like to change everything. If this happened, I ask you first to have compassion with yourself, and think of yourself in third person, if you were a friend of yours that would value things? If still unable to see the good in you, ask a trusted friend or family member that you appreciate things. I assure you they will appoint more! If, however, there is nothing in you that you would like to improve, do not even think of anything that could change a bit for the better ... mmmhh ... I mean it's not impossible, but I can not believe can not improve anything ... or maybe you would not be listening Route if so! So tb in this case, I would advise you ask someone, someone close, you want to do it with much affection, that he or she believes things you could improve yourself. I think in this case also you will be able to name some. Thanks in both cases to whom you asked, because it is an important gift that you are doing.
addition, in the previous episode we also did the question of how we want to be? What would our ideal self? To those who admire and why? and so we identified the gaps between how we really are and how we want to be. And we move a bit in those gaps. How big are they? Want to close? Think you can close them? Looking for explanations as to why you can not close? Or are you full of excuses for not closing? Why are you full of excuses? It gives you scared you can not change anything about your person? Or not to develop any property you want?
Well, it may seem a little intimidating part of the process, how do to close the gaps? But the truth is that the answer is simple ... doing nothing. Ok, let slowly.
The main obstacle is your beliefs. Clearly what you believe is possible or not will determine what you can get to achieve, as Henry Ford said, "whether you think you can or can not, in both cases you're right." So the first thing you'll ask, is the benefit of the doubt. For example, I'd be happier, but I can not. Have you tried? How many times? Do not tell me once and now ... you think Michael Jordan scored at the first opportunity? Give yourself the benefit of the doubt. That's all I'm going to ask ... "is that I I will never be able to speak in public. " You do not know! It depends on how strong your desire! Depends on how much you are willing to invest! Depends on how much you're willing to give to achieve it. Changing your beliefs, change who you are. Changing my beliefs, change who I am. I recently saw a movie that did not go to the movies, went straight to DVD, called Diverse Gifted , not as it is called in English, serving Cuba Gooding Junior. It is based on a true story, the head of pediatric neurosurgery at Harvard. The child when he was a good student, had a hard time, peers made fun of him. But his mother always said he was very smart and could get to do whatever he wanted. "If others can do it, you can also do, only better!" He told his mom.
So the first step in your improvement plan is to give you the benefit of the doubt, put aside your beliefs of what is possible or not, do not base on what was or was not possible before because it does not prove anything about what may or may not be possible in the future. Your past does not determine your present or your future, present and future are open for whatever you want to make them .
The second step is to pretend. Pay to see your face right now! If I pretend. The gringos have a saying that says "fake it Until you make it " Something so as "fake it until you make it" and I'm super fan of that philosophy. Like any other skill, the best way to learn an attitude or anything else is actually doing. I know it sounds easier than it actually is, but the key is to not expect that going right to the first. Neither the second nor the third ... accept input that the most likely cost you at first and do not get it, but practice makes perfect! At this stage you need a lot of patience and compassion. And you also need the clarity to realize when you're falling in behavior want to change. For this is good help. Again, I recommend you do to someone close, who loves you very much, to do it with love and not hurting you in the process. For example, say you want to be more positive. Sometimes it's hard to know when you're falling into that behavior, especially if you take too long to be negative, old habits are not easy to change. You can tell a friend, you would like to start being more positive, seeing the bright side of things and not always bad and you need their help when I see you falling into old habits that tell you something that may be agreed between you . At first you may annoy, but remember that this friend is really helping you and thank him.
Start with only 1 or 2 things you want to change or improve and when you have them incorporated into the way you are still with others, do not try to do everything at the same time, go slow, be patient .
Finally the third step is to periodically review and compare who you want to be. All who want to be changed and may change. Any conduct that was not relevant have before, can be today. Or you may have developed a new habit inconvenience.
In summary:
1) put aside your beliefs about what is or is not possible for you, give you the benefit of the doubt.
2) pretend, until you do.
3) periodically reviewing your identity.
Remember: Life is not about finding himself, is trying to create himself.
Ok, with that finished the series Designing your identity, I hope they have served.
Well, now I want to ask a little help.
I wonder if they have suggestions to make the route a better place than it is today. Which sections they would like to see added, forms of interaction that would like to have here on Route? It may be a section of greetings? Or if someone wants to share a quote, a poem, a phrase, to recommend a book? Do you think the length of the episodes? In general treatment lasting between 10 and 15 minutes. Sometimes I spend a little and others a little shorter, but I want to know if you think that the duration of episodes is appropriate? And how often? At first it was 3 times a week and are now 2, but I realize that sometimes people do not have time to listen to two episodes a week ... maybe it would be better once a week only? I ask you, are saying?
For now I do everything myself, and with much affection, so may not be able to implement all the suggestions so far, but I would like to know what you think. So please tell me ! The roads are the www.larutadelavida.com , mail larutadelavida@gmail.com , or we can communicate via twitter.com / larutadelavida
Before I go, Jesus Mercado, a traveler on the route, I asked to mention his blog: www.jmgthings.blogspot.com , where he speaks of the place where he lives, in Baja California Sur, Mexico. Will be the link in the blog route.
The music on this podcast called sunshine and is kevin mcleod .
Now I say goodbye, cuidense much, embrace and bon voyage!
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